Sunday, March 22, 2009

second marriage-with stepchildren

When I moved in over 6 yrs. ago with my lover and friend, I was looking forward to making his children an important part of my life. For nearly year, it seemed that they accepted me as a close friend and Jamie, a confidant and tutor. That realtionship was headed; however, for disaster. Both jamie and Jesse practically ignored me when Mike and I took them to a Rhode Island Beach resort for 4 nights. Their coolness did not sit well with me. At first i was sad and reacted by becoming weepy. Michael became angry with me and made excuses, esp. for Jamie, that she was with him so often and directed her converstions toward him. I never asked how then for so long she spoke equally to us. She became very self-centered. since she was not well-liked by her peers, she hung around her dad on weekends when I also needed him. It was hell. I started to mirror her attitude. We've had some scathing words over the years and our relationship has been reduced to a greetings and some superficial, short dialogs.
Jesse is failing in school and very troubled.

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